Finding common ground with your teen can be a difficult task, especially as they enter the stage where they truly believe that you don’t know anything about their lives and forget that you ever were a teen yourself. Conversely, as you come into the parenting side of the teenage years you know exactly what your teen is going through and it’s not unusual for you to want them to avoid making the same decisions you did. This can cause for some distant years unless you can find some common ground. One rarely touched upon way to do this is through music.
- Have a family game night with games like Rock Band or Guitar Hero – Interactive video games like Rock Band and Guitar Hero usually have a healthy mix of music from different genres, including hits from when you were a teen and songs that rank among your teens favorites today. Playing music like this together gives everyone a chance to be silly and enjoy music together… and they’ll probably love that you are willing to play their game.
- Swap CDs with your teen for a day – Take a favorite CD from your generation that fits into your teen’s favorite music genre and switch your teen for their current favorite band’s CD. You may be surprised how similar your tastes in music are, and being able to talk about the similarities and differences in music then and now can make for an interesting conversation.
- Go to an outdoor music festival together – It’s probably not too hard to find an outdoor music festival going on in your area, and that could be the perfect time to spend some time with your teen. Try to find a festival that offers an eclectic mix of music and make it an outing for the two of you.
- Switch off songs in the car – When you’re in the car together, having dinner, or hanging out at night outside switch off the stations you listen to between your favorites and your teens. This will make them feel more included and who knows, you may both find out that you have a shared favorite station or song.
- Find a neutral station you both enjoy – While you may not always listen to the same music, it’s possible that you do have one genre you both enjoy. Let this station play when you’re together and use it for talking points in conversations. Once you can agree, or even respectfully disagree, on music with one another it helps open up the flow of conversation.
Music has a way of drawing people together because there is always so much to be said about it. You don’t have to have the same favorite band or song as your teen, but you can use similar music tastes and even just the ability to be flexible with what you listen to when you’re together to open up some channels of communication.
This Guest post is by Christine Kane from internet service providers, she is a graduate of Communication and Journalism. She enjoys writing about a wide-variety of subjects for different blogs. She can be reached via email at: Christi.Kane00 @ gmail.com.
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