Monday, August 30, 2010

Rob Reiner's new movie, Flipped, opened on Friday and last week I had the honor and pleasure to interview him. When discussing Flipped, which is about first love between kids grown into young teens, Rob said "You never forget your first love. Therefore Flipped is a great bonding movie for parents and teens". He certainly was right.

Flipped is an adaptation of the novel by Wendelin Van Draanen of two families in the late fifties, early sixties. Bryce and Juli, who live across the street from each other, first meet when they are seven. We watch them over the next six years, but the stories flip back and forth from Bryce to Juli and back again. It is very interesting seeing both the girl's and boy's perspective. Both of the actors, playing the lead kids, Madeline Carroll as Juli and Callan McAuliffe as Bryce, did an amazing job.

The other main roles are all members of Bryce and Juli's families and are pivotal characters as an important part of the film is the effect that family has on these kids. The family members are played by Aidan Quinn, Penelope Ann Miller, Rebecca De Mornay, Anthony Edwards, John Mahoney and Kevin Weisman.

Here is a trailer for Flipped:



According to Rob Reiner, the author of Flipped, wrote the story because she was a teacher and saw that all that the kids would talk about were this boy or that girl and she knew exactly what they were feeling. The book is very popular with young teens. Seeing the movie, Flipped, together would be a great way for parents to open up a dialogue with their tweens and teens about their feelings about the other sex.

Rob actually found this story through bonding with his tween son. When his son was eleven, he brought home Flipped, the novel, from school. While reading it together, his son suggested that Flipped would make a great movie. Rob Reiner went ahead and made Flipped, and his son was right, it is a great film. If your teens aren't sure they want to see Flipped, tell them that it is made by the same director that made The Princess Bride, Stand By Me, This is Spinal Tap and When Harry me Sally.

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Friday, August 27, 2010

Are you able to teach your teens to be financially literate? It isn't always easy as not all parents are fully financially literate themselves. And even for those parents that are, it is not an easy topic to explain or teach. Since I am certainly no expert (my accounting and law degrees have not been used in many, many years), I have looked elsewhere for advice to share with you.

Here are 4 websites, experts or articles offering help and advice on financial literacy to parents and/or teens that you can use to have a conversation about personal finance and the things that they need to know to be financially literate:

1. Think Like a Kid, by Janet Bodnar, Editor, Kiplinger's Personal Finance - What kids want and need to know about money and resources that will help capture their attention.

2. The Mint - A partnership between the National Council on Economic Education and the Northwestern Mutual Foundation launched the Mint organization to help parents teach children to manage money wisely and develop good financial habits. The website has four different sections, fun for kids, tips for teens, pointers for parents and ideas for teachers.

3. 360 degrees of Financial Literacy - A website from the American Institute of Certified Public Accountants to help Americans understand their personal finances through every stage of life. On the How to Talk to Your Children About Money page, you will find various articles about teaching teens or children about money, stocks, summer salaries, etc.

4. Manage Your Money, Junior Achievement Student Center - American Express has partnered with Junior Achievement to help its teen and young adult PASS Cardmembers learn money management and financial responsibility. There is a direct link to this website from the American Express PASS Money 101 page. After reading through the website and learning about paychecks, credit, investing, etc., teens can then go on to pass the JA Financial Assessment Test and earn a certificate of financial literacy from Junior Achievement.

I hope that I have given you some tools to help discuss financial literacy with your teens and some tools for them to use themselves. For more information on the PASS card for your teen or young adult, go to the American Express PASS website.

Full disclosure: I am working with American Express on this series of blog posts about the PASS card and I am being paid for my writing. However, my son is using the card and everything I write about our experiences is authentic and my thoughts on the program are real.

See also:  
Teenagers and Money - Teaching Budgeting
Teenagers and Money - Most Important Lesson to Share?
Teens and Money: Help for Parents with The Money Talk 
Teens and Money - What about Allowance? 
Teens and Money - Understanding Needs vs. Wants 
Teens and Money - Cash, Credit or Debit Cards?

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Thursday, August 26, 2010

Labor day is just around the corner and that means that it is officially time for fall movies. Which movies coming out this fall might interest and/or be appropriate for teens and tweens. Here is a list of 20 movies coming out in fall of 2010 that I think might do the trick.

September

1. Easy A (9/17) - A romantic comedy about a clean cut high school girl (Emma Stone), whose life becomes like Hester Prynne's in The Scarlet Letter after she lies about losing her virginity. She finally decides to use the rumors to help her social and financial standing.

2. Alpha and Omega (9/17) - 3D animated film about Wolves starring Justin Long and Hayden Panettiere as wolves Alpha and Omega. Should be great for tweens.

3. The Legend of the Guardians: The Owls of Ga'Hoole (9/24) - Based on the first three installments of the book series Guardians of Ga'Hoole, this is a computer animated film that takes place in Australia about epic stories, mythic battles and brave young owls. Rated PG, this might appeal to teens of all ages. A video game based on the movie is set to be released.

4. You Again (9/24) - A comedy about a girl, Mami (Kristen Bell), whose brother, Will (Jimmy Wolk) is engaged to marry her high school enemy, Joanna (Odette Yustman). To add to the hilarity, Mami's mother (Jami Lee Curtis) and Joanna's aunt (Sigourney Weaver) were also rivals in high school. Sounds like a great mother-daughter movie to me. Also starring Betty White.

October

5. The Social Network (10/1) - - Based on the story of how Facebook came to be. Starring Jesse Eisenberg (Adventureland) and Justin Timberlake. Written by Aaron Sorkin. Adapted from the book The Accidental Billionaires: The Founding of Facebook, A Tale of Sex, Money, Genius, and Betrayal by Ben Mezrich.

6. Nowhere Boy (10/8) - A British film about the early life of John Lennon - his teenage years, his first band the Quarrymen and how it later became the Beatles. The film examines the impact that John's family had on him and his first meeting with Paul McCartney. The day of the U.S. release is the day before what would have been John Lennon's 70th birthday. See full review at Nowhere Boy Review, John Lennon's Birthday and the Quarrymen Perform.

7. Red (10/15) - Starring Bruce Willis, Red is an action film based on the comic book series by the same name. Also starring Mary-Louise Parker, Morgan Freeman, Helen Mirren and John Malkovich.

November

8. Due Date (11/5) - Robert Downey Jr. and Zach Galifianakis go on a road trip cross country so that Downey's character can arrive in time to see his child's birth. Also starring Michelle Monaghan and Jamie Foxx.

9. MegaMind (11/5) - Animated comedy about aliens in a crisis. MegaMind (Will Ferrell) is a super villian who tries to conquer Metro City, while Metro Man (Brad Pitt) stops him and becomes a hero. Also starring Jonah Hill and Tina Fey.

10. Morning Glory (11/12) - A comedy about a failing morning show starring Harrison Ford, Diane Keaton, Rachel McAdams and Jeff Goldblum. Although it sounds like a movie for adults, Rachel McAdams might bring teen girls in.

11. Unstoppable (11/12) - A cross between Speed and Pelham 1,2,3. Denzel Washington and Chris Pine star as a locomotive engineer and train conductor who chase a runaway train carryin combustible liquids and poisonous gas.

12. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows: Part 1 (11/19) - The adaptation of the final book of the Harry Potter series was too big to do in one film. Part 1 of the seventh book will premiere this November, with the final movie coming out next July. Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows deals with Harry and his friends race to find and destroy Voldemort's Horcruxes so that he will no longer be immortal. The movie will be released in 2D, 3D and IMAX 3D.

13. Burlesque (11/24) - A musical about a small town girl who follows her dreams to L.A., starring Cher( first film in over 10 years) and Christina Aguilera (film debut). Also starring Cam Gigandet, Stanley Tucci, Kristen Bell, Eric Dane, Alan Cumming and Julianne Hough.

14. Love and other Drugs (11/24) - Based on the non-fiction book Hard Sell: The Evolution of a Viagra Salesman, this comedy-drama stars Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway. Also with Judy Greer, Oliver Platt, Hank Azaria, Jill Clayburgh and George Segal.

15. Tangled (11/24) - A Disney 3D animated film based on the story of Rapunzel with voices by Mandy Moore, Zachery Levi, and Brad Garrett.

December

16. Chronicles of Narnia: The Voyage of the Dawn Treader (12/10) - 3D film based on the 3rd novel in the C.S. Lewis series.

17. How Do You Know (12/17) - A romantic comedy, directed, written and produced by James L. Brooks, about a love triangle between Reese Witherspoon, Paul Rudd and Owen Wilson. Also starring Jack Nicholson.

18. Tron: Legacy (12/17) - A sequel to the 1982 science fiction film. Jeff Bridges (Kevin) and Bruce Boxleitner (Alan and Tron) reprise their roles. Garrett Hedlund plays Sam, Kevin's 27 year old son, who tries to find his father in the mysterious digital universe where Kevin is trapped. Will be shown in IMAX 3D and RealD 3D. You won't be able to keep gamers away.

19. Gulliver's Travels (12/22) - A comic take on the classic story that should interest teens since it stars Jack Black and Jason Segel.

20. Little Fockers (12/22) - The third in the series, after Meet the Parents and Meet the Fockers. This sequel will deal with Fockers raising their five-year old twins. Ben Stiller, Robert De Niro and all the regular cast returns.

Which of these fall 2010 movies are you or your family members most looking forward to? Do you think your teens will enjoy any of these movies?

See also:
18 Best Movies for Teens Fall 2011
42 Movies for Teens 2011 
75 Classic Movies Teens Should See!
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Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Chances are, if you aren't addicted to gaming, you probably don't spend much time on video game news websites. However, not all video game websites are alike. I have found a few that are very interesting, even if you are just a casual gamer. So if you want to keep up with what is happening in the video game industry, you can browse these websites and should be able to find something of interest.

1. Game Theory - A fairly new website, different from the others, in that it has more of an academic, intellectual bent. "It is the first video series and online magazine to offer in-depth analysis and insight on the video game industry from the perspective of its most celebrated innovators, including the field's top designers, executives, journalists and academics." This is a video game website that makes its readers and viewers think. The video discussions are casual, yet offer unique viewpoints on the industry. Some of the recent topics on Game Theory have been "Why Designers Are Going Social, Casual", "The New Face of Retro Games", and "The New Definition of Video Games".

2. GameSpot - Not only one of the top gaming sites, but also one of the top websites, GameSpot is more of a typical video games website. However, the GameSpot Features Section, which is basically blog posts or articles, have wide appeal. These are articles written toward the average person, not only serious gamers. Some of the articles featured are "Back to School Gift Guide 2010", "Madden NFL GameSpot Primer", and "The Future of Gaming 3D".

3. GameLife - GameLife is one of the many interesting blogs on Wired's website. "You Source For Gaming News Since 20XX". What else is there to say. Everything on Wired or Wired's blogs is interesting and thought provoking. Some recent articles have included, "Portal Game Makes Wabash College Reading List", "Spot the Videogame Hardware in Star Wars Uncut", and Video: Innovative Musical Themes "Drive Socom 4's Gameplay".

4. Kotaku - An extremely popular blog, Kotaku is part of Gawker Media's network of sites (Lifehacker, Jezebel, Gizmodo...). The blog posts are called discussions, which makes sense here since there is a great deal of commenting leading to very active discussions. Some recent discussions include, "Nintendo's Fantastic, Familiar Airstream Tour Bus", "There's A Little Monty Python in Team Fortress 2", "Capcom Promises: No More Racist Games!".

5. GamesRadar - Although GamesRadar is a full content video games website that offers forums, guides and more, the articles are featured right on the home page. They don't take a back seat as they do on GameSpot. One thing that GamesRadar is known for is their "Top 7 lists". Some recent articles of interest on this website include, "The Top 7...Best summers in videogame history", "The Sonic video we've been waiting 16 years to see", and "Game music of the day: Scott Pilgrim vs the World".

I hope that you will find at least one of the video game websites above interesting enough to return to. Keeping up-to-date in pop culture and technology means being knowing something about the video game world also. By just browsing the above websites, you can be part of the conversation.

See also:  
Books vs Video Games - Beware! Your Views May Change
Online Video Games Can Improve Our World
3D and Vision: Harmful? Hear from the Experts
Transmedia - The Future of Entertainment?


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Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Clear Blue Tuesday follows the unfolding fates of eleven New Yorkers through six Septembers after 9/11. This high energy film allows us to follow each one as they come to grips with their lives. New director, Elizabeth Lucas, gives the film a visceral feeling and created the film with a cast of rising rock artists, improv comics, Broadway stars, indie film actors and pop songwriters, who all helped give birth to the film's unique characters.

Clear Blue Tuesday is not about the events that took place on 9/11, but about how people's live were changed thereafter. As you visit these characters over seven different September Tuesdays, you will witness how each one learns how to breathe the clear blue air all over again.

The music in Clear Blue Tuesday is absolutely amazing and is an integral part of the movie. You can hear a small sampling of the music in this trailer for the film:


CLEAR BLUE TUESDAY trailer from Elizabeth Lucas on Vimeo.

Now the bad news. The film will be playing in only limited release. In New York City, Clear Blue Tuesday will be opening at the QUAD at 34 W. 13th St on 9/3/2010 for 5 screenings daily. However it is only scheduled to play for a few weeks.

On Sunday, August 29th, to celebrate the release of the Clear Blue Tuesday soundtrack, a concert will be given in NYC at the Metropolitan Room, 34 W. 22nd St. at 7pm.  Some of the artists from the movie will be performing.

Clear Blue Tuesday will also be screened as part of the Fort Lauderdale International Film Fest in October as well as many other private screening. A Los Angeles run is a possibility right now.

If you live anywhere near a movie house in which Clear Blue Tuesday will be playing, I urge you to see this film. If word of mouth grows, maybe it will spread to other areas of the country. And if you have a 9/11 story that you would like to share, email you name, location and a text or video story to stories@clearbluetuesday.com.

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Monday, August 23, 2010

If you enjoyed the novel, Pride and Prejudice and Zombies, you might want to try the new Jane Austen mashup novel, Emma and the Vampires. Based on one of Jane Austen's wittiest books, Emma is now a vampire slayer and the handsome Mr. Knightly is a vampire, secretly in love with Emma.

Do we have a mashup between Emma and Buffy the Vampire Slayer? I could think of many worse things than one of my favorite books combined with one of my favorite television series. For the most part the story works. The author, Wayne Josephson retains Jane Austen's wit and actually makes the book even funnier.

Here is a description of Emma and the Vampires from the book:

In this hilarious retelling of Jane Austen's Emma, screenwriter Wayne Josephson casts Mr. Knightley as one of the most handsome and noble of the gentlemen village vampires. Blithely unaware of their presence, Emma, who imagines she has a special gift for matchmaking, attempts to arrange the affairs of her social circle with delightfully disastrous results. But when her dear friend Harriet Smith declares her love for Mr. Knightley, Emma realizes she's the one who wants to stay up all night with him. Fortunately, Mr. Knightley has been hiding a secret deep within his unbeating heart-his (literal) undying love for her... A brilliant mash-up of Jane Austen and the undead.

Emma and the Vampires might be the perfect book to use to introduce your teenage daughters to Jane Austen. Your teens might already be somewhat aware of Emma because the movie Clueless was based on it. Most teenage girls are very into vampires whether because of Twilight or The Vampire Diaries, so they might be very open to trying this book, which has been made somewhat easier to read. However, fear not, the basic language, plot and settings of Emma have all been retained. Emma and the Vampires would be a great book for mothers and daughters to share and connect over.




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Sunday, August 22, 2010

The Science Channel is premiering a new program targeted toward middle-school students, premiering August 23rd. Head Rush is a new one-hour, commercial free television series that will inspire and excite kids about the wonders of science.

"Imagine a world where kids are as passionate about physics as they are about Facebook; where excelling in math is the coolest thing in school; and engineers and scientists are treated like rock stars."
Check out this video preview of Head Rush:



Hosted by Mythbusters' Kari Byron, Head Rush is like an hour of MythBusters mashups, with games, experiments, special science celebrities and more. Beginning Monday, August 23rd, 2010, you can watch Head Rush on the Science Channel every Monday - Friday from 4-5PM ET/PT and Saturdays from 7-9AM ET/PT. Science does not have to be kept in the classroom.

See also: TED Talks - Ideas Worth Sharing




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Saturday, August 21, 2010

Griffin Technology, award winning maker of iPod accessories, has many great, inexpensive cases for the iPad and the iPod classic, iPod Touch,  iPod 3G, iPod 3GS and iPod 4. I am selling these Griffin cases through my OpenSky store.  I checked Griffin Technology's website, and the OpenSky prices are significantly lower.

iPad
1. Jumper Stretch Case for iPad- soft, stretchy protection for your iPad. Its tough neoprene sleeve protects your iPad from dust, dirt, and fingerprints. Flip the top closed for 100 percent coverage. Slim enough to fit easily into your bag, backpack, or briefcase. $18

2.  Reveal for iPad - Griffin's thinnest case for iPad yet, Reveal adds just 1.4 mm in thickness. Sleek, one piece design shields your iPad from the outside world as it protects.  $27


iPhone
1. Reflect Case for iPhone 3G/3GS - This mirrored chrome-finish case offers tough protection for your iPhone. The Reflect case is a durable polycarbonate mirrored-chrome shell that gives easy access to iPhone's touch screen. A matte black rubberized case back complements the reflective front, and gives you a secure grip. $40.

2. Elan Graphite Pocket for iPhone 3G/3GS - Picture an easy-in, easy-out slipcase for your iPhone 3G and iPhone 3GS in a patterned, composite-look synthetic finish. Add convenient business-card-sized pockets for your stuff. A clever built-in pull-tab slides your iPhone out for you. Soft micro-suede lining is kind to your iPhone, front and back. $18

3. FlexGrip for iPhone 4 - wraps your iPhone in flexible, durable TPU (an abrasion-resistant plastic) that protects against dirt, dings, dents and scratches. Smooth on the back, with grooves molded into the sides for improved grip. $20.
4. Elan Holster Metal for iPhone 4 Platinum - Griffin's flip-top horizontal case, with integrated clip, keeps your iPhone safe and close at hand on your belt, bag, or backpack strap. Velcro closures hold the flap shut to keep your iPhone snug inside. $35


iPods
1. Reflect for iPod Classic - Reflect presents a sleek, mirrored face to the world -- until you activate your iPod and its screen shines through the metallic finish. A matte black rubberized case back seals your iPod inside, and provides a sure grip. Available in sizes to fit the new iPod nano, iPod classic, and iPod touch. $18

2. iClear Sketch for iPod Nano 5G -  iClear Sketch is all-over protection for your iPod with complete access to controls, dock connector and headphone jack, with a decorative translucent pattern. $15

3. Outfit Shade for iPod Touch 2nd generation - Sleek, stylish, hard-shell protection for your iPod touch. Griffin's slim, no-clip case surrounds your iPod touch in a polycarbonate shell with a graduated tint finish to protect it against dings and dents. $18

Griffin makes great products, Apple cases being among some of their best and you can buy them here at a great price.

See also: Personalize Your Gadgets with Pop Culture MusicSkins

 

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Friday, August 20, 2010

Friday Night Lights fans can now watch every episode of this critically acclaimed show again, when ABC Family begins airing Friday Night Lights, weeknights, at 6:00 PM ET/PT, starting September 7, 2010. Better yet, for anyone that has never watched this wonderful show, perfect for both parents and teenagers, they can start now.

I have to admit that I did not watch Friday Night Lights initially because I thought it was only about high school football, and I am not a big football fan. However, the series is really about how the football team affects the small town of Dillon Texas, the football coach and his family.

Friday Night Lights stars Kyle Chandler as coach Eric Taylor and Connie Britton as his wife Tami Taylor. They have both been nominated for Emmy Awards in the Best Acting categories this year, a nod many feel is way overdue. Aimee Teegarden plays their teenage daughter Julie. Most of the rest of the cast are made up of the high school football players. The upcoming season 5 of Friday Night Lights will, sadly, be its last.

Friday Night Lights is a perfect television series for parents and teens to connect over. There is something for everyone - the parents drama, the parent/teen drama, the high school teens, football and so much more. If you missed it up until now, don't make that mistake again. September 7, the day after Labor day, set your dvrs to ABC Family at 6 PM ET/PT and catch up on the show that fans are passionate about - Friday Night Lights.

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Thursday, August 19, 2010

Have you ever tried to sit down with your teen and have "The Money Talk"? Have you discussed short and long term finances? Talking about money, with anyone, is stressful. How do you broach the topic with your teens, especially if there have already been money problems?

According to a new survey by PASS from American Express, approximately one third of parents said that talking to their teens about allowance was comparable or worse than the stressful experience of negotiating the purchase of a car. Nearly half of teens said that asking their parents for money was a hassle.

To help make these talks easier for families, American Express has partnered with personal finance expert Jean Chatzky to launch "The National Money Night Talk", which encourages families around the country to talk with their kids about money and financial responsibility. On the Money Night Talk website, parents can sign a pledge that they will talk to their kids about money. The website also offers videos and other resources on talking about money to three different age groups, middle school, high school and college.

Up until now, the PASS card was only available to American Express Cardholders. Now any parent can get their teenager or young adult a PASS card. You will love these parental account controls built into the PASS system:
  • View transaction history and monitor spending
  • Receive email alerts for low funds or other notifications that you set up
  • Enable/Disable ATM access for the card
  • Check card balance 24/7
  • Load funds 24/7
  • Schedule automatic reloading of card funds and more
I have been extremely happy with the PASS program. I can see all of my son's spending activity in one place. It is also easier to talk to him about his spending habits when I have access to what they actually are. I still don't love these discussions, but they are not nearly as difficult as they used to be.

To learn more about the PASS program, go to the American Express PASS website. This is the 4th post in a series of eight articles I am writing about teens and money, sponsored by American Express. If you missed the first 3, you can find them at Teens and Money - Cash, Credit or Debit Cards?, Teens and Money - Understanding Needs vs. Wants, and Teens and Money - What about Allowance?

Full disclosure: I am working with American Express on this series of blog posts about the PASS card and I am being paid for my writing. However, my son is using the card and everything I write about our experiences is authentic and my thoughts on the program are real.

See also:  
Teenagers and Money - Teaching Budgeting
Teenagers and Money - Most Important Lesson to Share?
Teens and Money - 4 Websites Teaching Financial Literacy

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Wednesday, August 18, 2010

The video game developer, THQ, has launched an innovative new accessory for the Nintendo Wii, a drawing pad and game, uDraw Studio. The game will be released in time for the holidays and will sell for a suggested retail price of $69.99.

Last night, a press preview was held was held at Nintendo World in New York City. Many stations were set up around the store with Wiis and uDraws for everyone to try out. Adults, teens and kids all seemed to be having a great time trying out the drawing tablet. Video trailers for uDraw also played throughout Nintendo World. Check out this preview below:



In addition to the game tablet and the drawing software that comes with uDraw studio, two other games will also be available to purchase in time for the holidays. The uDraw version of Pictionary looks like great fun and Dood's Big Adventure combines action and art into one crazy game. Each game will retail for $29.99.

In addition to all the fun you can have, uDraw can be used for serious drawing. I'm looking forward to getting one for my son, the graphic design major. At the launch party last night, I watched as cartoonist Jason Pyke drew a picture of a pirate and artist David Kassan sketched a portait. uDraw, for the Nintendo Wii, is made to be used by people of any age and any skill level. And that also means that the entire family can share it and connect.

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Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Below is a guest post by Janine Sherman, an expert in adolescents and a mother of two. Having a wonderful relationship with her teens made it that much harder to deal with the college separation. Janine learned how to keep her relationship with her teens strong and is sharing that advice in her guest post:


Here are five ways to help stay connected when your teen leaves for college.

Let your child know how you feel about staying in touch. When I didn't let my daughter know how I was feeling about our new relationship, our conversations would become argumentative, and we would both hang up the phone feeling upset. I finally explained to my daughter that it was okay if she did not want to give me every little detail about her life. After all, she was now an adult living on her own and I respected that. However, for my own piece of mind, I needed to know that she was adjusting to her new life and she was doing well. This could be accomplished in many different ways, but I wanted to hear her voice at least once a week. We also communicated through email and text messages. Once she understood my needs, we were better able to keep the lines of communication open.

Use social media channels. Although sending your child to school with a nanny cam or a GPS tracking system on their phone or car may be a tempting thought, it would be a very bad idea. However, you can try to be friends on Facebook. My daughter set up my Facebook page months before, but I rarely ever looked at it. After she left for college, this became a great way to feel connected. We would write messages on each others walls and she would direct me to her pictures so I could see her new friends.

Write letters letting your child know you are thinking of them and you miss them. I usually add a little gift card or some fun goody. Once, I sent her a Halloween garland to hang on her door. My favorite thing to enclose is self-addressed stamped post cards with a series of questions so that my child only has to check a box or fill in a word. They will appreciate this because all students love mail, and the postcard will make them laugh. You will love it because the responses are often very humorous.

Set up specific phone dates. For instance, a friend of mine told me every Tuesday they would talk on the phone at 8 a.m. over a cup of coffee. This gave them a predictable time to connect one on one.

Plan a visit. You can't visit your child every weekend nor should you, but most schools have a parents' weekend which you should mark on the calendar as soon as you know the date. Parents' weekend for us was a real learning experience. We saw what her world had evolved into and had a great time. Most schools schedule them early in the first semester after your child has adjusted to college life.

The good news is that this transition is the beginning of a new phase in both of your lives. It's the start of your child becoming an independent adult. When I gave my daughter more space, her calls home came more frequently and the conversations became more detailed. Now we rarely go a day without talking to each other. Although our relationship is different, we still share a strong bond, and when we are together we have a great time.

When I leave my son at school in just a few short weeks, hopefully I will be a bit more prepared for this new phase in his life. It is a reminder that our lives are always changing and my role as a mom will be ever evolving.
Janine Sherman, RN, MSN, WHNP-BC, is a Woman's Health Nurse Practitioner who specializes in the care of adolescent patients. She currently works in a busy OB/GYN office in Houston. She is also the co-author of Start Talking: A Girls Guide for You and Your Mom About Health, Sex, or Whatever.


See also: Author of The Available Parent on Connecting With Your Teens


 

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Monday, August 16, 2010

It is Back-to-school time, and with budget cuts everywhere, parent volunteers will be needed to help out at schools more than ever. VolunteerSpot is a free online coordination tool that simplifies volunteering and makes it much easier for parents to get involved.

VolunteerSpot makes the volunteer process easier for everyone involved - the parent volunteer coordinators, the parent volunteers, the teachers and the students. Here are some of the features and benefits:
  • Recruiting is Simplified
  • VolunteerSpot is clipboard compatible
  • Sign up for specific assignment is done easily and instantly
  • Eliminate the clutter - no paper, just one organizer wizard
  • Stay organized
  • Keep in touch easily
  • Schedule automated reminders
  • Volunteers will know when and where they are needed and what they will be doing
  • Volunteers can easily sign-up and make changes on the calendar
  • VolunteerSpot offers free eBooks for volunteer leaders and active members that will help volunteers planning fundraising and service activities
VolunteerSpot was launched a year ago by Karen Bantuveris, a management consultant, Girl Scout leader and PTA board member. Shocked at all the little things that made volunteering a hassle, she decided to do something about it. VolunteerSpot was created with the mission of enabling anybody to quickly coordinate volunteers in their community, congregation and social network. You can learn a great deal more about this program on the VolunteerSpot website.

Although VolunteerSpot can be used for all of these communities, they do have a special page for schools. Check out the VolunteerSpot School page which is full of tips for parents and teachers in addition to the volunteer coordination tools. In the short time VolunteerSpot has been in business, the online sign up tool has increased parent participation by 20% and has also raised school donation rates. If any of you register before October 1, 2010 using the promo code TeachersSave, you have the chance to win $100 in classroom supplies for your favorite teacher. Good Luck.

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Sunday, August 15, 2010

Bausch + Lomb has a new daily contact lens, SofLens, and is encouraging parents and kids to make vision care a priority. Proper vision is very important both in and out of the classroom. And they are throwing in a contest to help get teens excited.

Studies show that kids with glasses sometimes choose not to wear them. According to a recent study:
  • 42% of parents said that their child dislikes wearing their glasses
  • 41% said that their child does not always wear their glasses when he should
  • 50% say their child would rather wear contact lenses
Daily disposable contact lenses are a healthy and convenient options for kids and teens because a fresh, new pair is worn every day and then thrown out. There is no cleaning or maintenance for parents to oversee. "A growing body of evidence shows that SofLens daily disposable contact lenses are a great option for teens. They're affordable, do not require cleaning and storage, and allow kids to pursue sports, arts and academics without dealing with glasses." Shelly Toltz, O.D. optometrist, mother and former school teacher.

Contest
The  "Seeing Eye to Eye" contest is open to all parents with teens and tweens between the ages of 10 and 19. "Having a child can be tough work! But that doesn't mean it's not fun. The best moments are when you're able to connect on a certain issue, no matter how big or small. This is your chance to share how "seeing eye to eye" with your child has impacted your world in a positive way. All you need to do is submit a short story about what brings you and your child (between the ages of 10 and 19 years old) together. While it's not mandatory, a photo always helps tell your story!"      

The winner gets a $5,000 scholarship for their teen and a trip to the American Music Awards in Los Angeles on November 21, 2010. Submit your story on the Bausch & Lomb SofLens Facebook Page.

Promotion
Prices will be reduced on SofLens daily disposable contact lenses through the end of September. For more on SofLens and back to school promotions, see the Bausch + Lomb SofLens webpage. 

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Friday, August 13, 2010

Parents with teenage daughters have to deal with a completely different animal than those with teenage sons. The mother-daughter relationship during those adolescent years is at its most fragile. Fortunately, there is a great deal of advice out there to guide and support you. Here are three new books that might help you better understand and deal with your teenage daughter.

1. My Teenage Were-Wolf by Lauren Kessler (8/5/10) - What's more challenging in the life of a woman - being a teenager, or being the mother of a teenager? (from the inside flap). When Lauren Kessler's daughter went from being a loving child who adored her mom, to a teenage werewolf who was embarrassed to be anywhere near her, Lauren needed to understand more about this relationship. As a reporter, she embedded herself in her daughter's life, in the 7th and 8th grade classrooms, at home, at the mall, at camp, for an 18 month mission to learn more about the culture of the young teenage girl in the twenty-first century.

If you want to understand what is going on with your teenage daughter, there is nothing better than reading My Teenage Were-Wolf. Even though she is exploring a serious subject, Kessler writes in a very light and witty style. I don't even have daughters and I loved this book. If you do have a daughter in or approaching her teen years, then this is a Must Read book.

2. You're Grounded Forever...But First, Let's go Shopping by Susan Shapiro Barash (9/28/10) - The challenges mothers face with their daughters and ten timely solutions (from the cover). This book explores the way that mothers find it so difficult to set limits with their daughters. Some of the issues dealt with in You're Grounded Forever are:
  • Indulging daughters with material items
  • Over emphasizing beauty and dieting
  • Not fostering independence in their daughters
  • Loose boundaries and rules
  • Making excuses for their daughters
  • Why do mothers second guess their mothering abilities?
  • Why is the 21st Century mother so invested in her daughter's life?
3. Just Between Us: A No-Stress, No-Rules Journal for Girls and their Moms by Meredith & Sofie Jacobs (3/31/10) - Open this Journal to get to know each other in a whole new way (from the back cover).Meredith and Sofie Jacobs, a mother and daughter, created this journal as an extra tool of communication. They find it useful for sharing thoughts that might be difficult to talk about in person.

The Just Between Us journal is a nice looking hard cover book that includes helpful advice from Meredith and Sofie, writing prompts for discussions, pages for drawing or making lists and plenty of free space for writing anything on your mind. Just Between Us also includes suggested guidelines for you and your daughter to discuss before you begin. After that there is a 20 things about me page to begin the mother daughter connecting.

As a mother of two sons, my only mother/teenage daughter experience was when I was the teenager. Things have certainly changed since then. However, from listening and observing my friends, I am well aware of what it is like to deal with a teenage daughter today. For any mothers of teen or tween girls, I highly recommend My Teenage Were-Wolf, You're Grounded Forever and Just Between Us.

See also:
TEDxWomen - Teenage Girls Harmed by our Culture
Unique Advice Book For Moms of Teenage Daughters
Book Helps Moms and Tween Daughters Bond Over Beauty
Moms and Daughters Share 'Think' by Lisa Bloom
Author of The Available Parent on Connecting With Your Teens
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